Judgment, however correct, is a fair sword that cuts through love, creating more separation between all individuals in the same being.
Sometimes we travel hundreds of miles to see the cherry blossoms, but when we arrive, we are disappointed that they are not in full bloom like in previous years. Walking among the romantic cherry blossom forest without feeling interested and enthusiastic about each branch like everyone else. Looking at the current cherry blossoms, we regret remembering the cherry blossoms of the past, so our hearts keep rising with a feeling of disappointment and boredom. When someone asks us how the cherry blossoms bloom this year, we don't hesitate to comment: "Very bad! Not half as much as it was a few years ago." If the cherry blossom had heard those remarks, it would have been very sad. Although this year it could not bloom as full as usual, it still had to taste the bone-chilling cold of the winter weather to spread its wings. It has tried its best to fulfill its responsibilities, but it cannot change the climate situation to its liking.
But why do we demand cherry blossoms to be like this or that? Have we done anything for the cherry blossoms, or have we contributed to the destruction of the environment to allow the climate to change erratically, making the cherry blossoms so. Fault at me or at the cherry blossoms? And is it true that everyone who looks at cherry blossoms this year is in the same mood as we are?
Looking back, we find ourselves regularly making such irresponsible remarks. Of course, life always needs basic principles or standards to create balance and stability. But not everything needs to be included in the standard. Even if it is a standard, it is only relative, because it is based on the mind of each society in each era. There is no standard for viewing cherry blossoms or enjoying beauty. Of course, we have the right to make our own comments, no one can accuse us if it is harmless. But it is this attitude of inadvertent observation that will cause us to lose our clear eyes to see reality. Not only do we fail to see reality, but we overlay it with a comparative perspective when we add to it the ego's love-hate attitude. Commenting to help each other improve, make life more beautiful, make us closer to heaven and earth is essential. But the truth is that most of our comments come from our habit of defending our selfish interests.
From comment to judgment is a very close distance. Judgment, though still based on one's own perceptions and feelings, is not yet as defining it as judgmental. If judgment is right or wrong, judgment is also right and wrong. And like comments, judgments are often meant to condemn or accuse others, but rarely to sustain them. For those who are entrusted with the right to represent justice and the law, it is imperative that they make right or wrong judgments to solve problems that have serious implications. But it is also a reluctant job to coordinate society, prevent wrong from overriding right. Because of the truth, no one is qualified to represent nobility or truth to judge anyone. Everyone has wrongs and everyone has holy qualities.
When we judge the other person, we see only one side of them and define them as just that forever. Although they were not cute yesterday, they made clumsiness or mistakes, but standing before us today is a new person, a healed soul, a transformed mental mechanism, the judgment is no longer valid. Even if we deliberately don't see it and don't accept it, the truth is still the same. The more we persist in our old prejudices or prejudices, the further we fall behind in life. We will not grasp the mysterious value of life.
Because life is steeped in inattention, we often ignore our attitude when looking at an object or problem. Every time we make a comment, we always include our likes or dislikes. When a person asks us for the other person's information, looking at their trusting gaze and our preconceived attitude toward the other person, we can't control our emotions of wanting to make judgments and judgments. If we like it, we praise it all, and if we don't like it, we will criticize mercilessly, making the listener feel like these things are completely true. We should have let them feel directly the object they wanted to know. Even for some particular reason we need to provide information about the other person, we must objectively give what is absolutely necessary and correct. But we don't forget to include a wise word of caution: "That's my comment, not sure if it's true or not." If we are a person of great authority, every comment we make can cause others to lose all faith in ourselves; A judgment from me can also turn into a life sentence that puts them in despair.
The story of the young lady in Nanchang is a huge lesson. When Mr. Zhang set out to fight, she stayed at home to take care of her infant child. At night she coaxed him by pointing to the shadow on the wall reflected from the oil lamp and saying, "Daddy!" More than a year later, returning from the battle, Mr. Zhang was deeply distressed because the child refused to recognize himself as his father. He said, "My dad just arrived. Whenever you sit Daddy sits, Mom goes Daddy follows." Mr. Zhang, who was skeptical, now that he heard the child say this, he immediately believed it. Despite his neighbors' advice, Mr. Zhang did not listen, insisting on his wife's betrayal. She didn't know who to talk to, so she jumped into the river to commit suicide. At night, Mr. Zhang coaxed his son by the oil lamp, and the child looked up at the wall and shouted, "Daddy is coming!" He was suddenly shocked.
In order not to repeat Mr. Zhang's mistake, please do not let narcissism or subjectivity cloud your ability to listen to understand the industry before you let go of the verdict.
In the pharmacy counters in Western countries it is often written: "Even if you are sure, please check again." A mistaken dose of medicine can take a human life in an instant. Therefore, we must be very careful and have a sense of responsibility before making judgments that will determine the future or fate of others. Even if we have heard, seen, and held the evidence in our hands, we should not rush to be sure and judge "like nails". Because maybe it's just a "maneuver" for them to carry out some noble mission, or because they have transcended conventional frameworks and reached extraordinary levels, we cannot guess. So let's not forget to say to ourselves, "Are you sure?" or "See that, not so," so that we can give ourselves more opportunities to explore, so that we can overcome our own perceptions and emotions in the present and always live with the truth. Because emotion is a reaction of love or hate, it can deflect any comment into an emotional judgment. Unfortunately, often when awareness becomes clear again, it is too late, because information and emotions are already transmitted everywhere.
Meteorologist Edward Norton Lorenz theorized about the butterfly effect: "A butterfly's wing smash in Brazil could create a major hurricane in Texas." The butterfly's wing smash is very small, but it has a knock-on effect on other kinetic energies more significantly, so it can create a huge effect. By that principle, of course, another wing smash can also extinguish it. No one would have expected that every one of our actions could have a great effect on others, and more frightening than that it would pay us back with a much greater effect. Because not only does it not disappear once it has occurred, but is willing to wait for other forces of the same frequency to come in to form another effect. There is no need for information technology, no need for other objects to know or not, as long as the energy in us is emitted, it will be transmitted by the energies available in the universe. Sometimes the effect is instant, sometimes it is until our descendants complete the effect. If we had gratuitously brought the other person a huge amount of bad emotion through the public outrage and false contempt, then it would be natural for us to accept that "debt" plus the "interest" sent by the universe.
Therefore, if we do not have the consensus of public responsibility, or do not come from a kindness that wants to help, we should never let go of the energy of judgment, either directly or indirectly. It both harms others, but also destroys the germ within ourselves. And when we are just in doubt and have not heard the other person's confirmation, we should urgently find out the truth with an unbiased mind to quickly release that doubtful energy. Because doubt and judgment are very close friends. As long as doubt arises, judgment will easily follow. However, listening and affection are two hallows that are also within us. It can help us stop the formation of judgment and neutralize the shadows of doubt.
Once, Confucius, who was lying down reading, suddenly looked down at the kitchen to see Yan Hui take chopsticks and stir rice into his hand, grab small handfuls and bring them to his mouth. Confucius sighed and lamented, "Oh my! My closest student eats you so clumsily, so clumsily?" As the students gathered to prepare their meal, Confucius said, "Children! We traveled ten thousand miles from Lu to Qi, and I am glad that in such a situation of hunger and chaos, you still maintain a pure heart, follow me and love each other. Today our teachers and students are fortunate to have a meal, he remembers his homeland, remembers his parents. So I want to stir up a bowl of rice to offer to my parents, do you say?" The students all clasped their hands and said, "Yes, teacher, should!" Only Yan Hui remained still.
Confucius said again, "But I wonder if this rice cooker is clean or not?" The students didn't know what he meant, so they looked at each other in bewilderment. At that time, Yan Hui folded his hands and said, "Yes, sir, this rice cooker is not clean. Because when I opened it to see if the rice was cooked, unfortunately a gust of wind came in, soot and dust on the house fell and soiled the whole rice cooker. I was quick to cover it but couldn't keep up. Then I ripped out the dirty rice, intending to throw it away. But I think the rice is little, but you are crowded, if you remove this dirty rice, you will lose a portion of food, you must eat less. So I allowed you and all the brothers to eat before that dirty rice, and the clean rice to offer to you and all the brothers. So I have eaten rice today, now I ask permission to eat only the vegetables. And sir, if you have eaten first, you should not offer it!"
After hearing Yan Hui's words, Confucius raised his face to the sky and lamented, "Oh, so there are things in this world that I see clearly with my own eyes and still do not understand the truth. Howdy! It's almost time for this Confucius to be a jerk!"
Judgment, however correct, is a fair sword that cuts through love, creating more separation between all individuals in the same being. So let's try to get into the habit of mere identification—seeing reality as it is—to let go of unnecessary discriminatory observations. Replace the habit of judgment with sincere feedback so that we always give each other a chance to improve.
The mind is tired
of hate forever
Stop talking discriminately
I find me.
love energizes each other
Like a pure water