Understanding Emotional Attachment and Control

Emotions are momentary reactions to protect the rights of the ego.

When we love an object, we often find ways to possess it. But for a short time, we are bored to find new objects, even though the old ones have not changed. This attitude shows that we are living in control of our emotions. Just like when someone offends us, we get angry and try to retaliate. At least we have to say a sentence that causes them pain to gloat, but we can't calm down to learn and solve the problem smoothly. It's also emotional slavery. Or when we hear someone cry and mourn so emotionally, we can't hold back our tears, soften our hearts and accept all their demands. But after a few hours, we suddenly regretted our decision. This action is also driven by emotions.

Human activity is under the control of a psychological mechanism consisting of four elements: the mind (feeling), the mind (imagining), the mind acting (the love-hate response), the mind (recognizing and remembering). Each element is a combination formed and constantly influenced by other factors. For example, when we drink a cup of tea, we feel the heat, flavor and taste of tea, it is due to the mind. We recognize that this is tea and not anything else, and we also recognize what kind of tea it tastes like, which is due to the mind. And when we develop the idea of liking this tea, it is the intervention of the mind. And then we have the intention of wanting to bring some of this tea back to our friends, when again the mind intervenes. Now, if our minds show the scene of sitting and sharing this special taste of tea with close friends, that is the activity of the mind. All the way home the taste of tea was still in my head, meaning my mind was still working. When we bring tea to our friends, if being disparaged makes us sad and disappointed, we even promise ourselves that we will never do it again, which is the control of the mind.

The mind has the function of sensing what the senses receive from outside. The mind has the function of reproducing all the data stored in the mind. In addition, it can mold that data into new data to help us create, explore or draw. The mind has the function of perceiving what comes into contact through the senses, and at the same time stores all information from genetics to what has been acquired up to the present moment. This endless storage is also called the subconscious, subconscious or deep consciousness. Mental activity is expressions of love, forgiveness, patience, rejoicing, humility, and anger, stigma, pride, loneliness, despair In general, all attitudes of love or hate belong to the function of the mind.

Although each element plays an important and inseparable role to function, it is the mental activity that directly expresses the message of the self (self). It can be said that the administrative mind is the lair of the ego. In fact, all these attitudes of love or hate are just seeds deep in the storehouse of the mind. When that seed is triggered by external circumstances through the senses, or by other seeds on the side, it turns into a source of energy that manifests itself on the surface of consciousness. We call it mental activity. Although most mental actions contain the nature of love and hate, only those that show momentary reactions, without the illumination and intervention of reason, are classified as emotions. Therefore, we can define it succinctly: emotions are momentary reactions to protect the rights of the ego.

Medicine defines emotions as the chemical state of the brain. Because the amount of circulating blood supplied to the brain is constantly renewing, and the neural flow is constantly changing to bring information about external environment developments or reciprocal experiences that are already recorded in the brain archive, any brain chemistry will be "washed out" after about fifteen minutes. So the nature of emotions is temporary.

Although emotions such as jealousy or hatred last for decades, the frequency of their activity is always changing. Each time an emotion arises, it brings a new knowledge and a new experience, making its capacity stronger or weaker. Or it will change direction suddenly, as being angry, mad, can also turn into passionate love if the ego is suddenly respected or cherished (whether in one form or another). It can be said that emotions are the shallow reactive part of the psyche. Its job is to exude energy to express our feelings of satisfaction or dissatisfaction, like or dislike, acceptance or disapproval, so it often brings regret to us soon after. Therefore, a person who is constantly controlled by emotions will behave very shallowly. Although they know many things or righteousness, whenever a good or bad emotion breaks, they listen to it like children – very instinctively and regardless of the consequences.

Life cannot be without emotions, because emotions are the levels of human emotions. But if emotions are exploited to the point where they are beyond the control of reason, it is a loss of self-sovereignty, which causes us to make mistakes and suffer many consequences after the emotion passes.

In love, people often want the heart to lead the way rather than to judge with the head. This sounds so easy to vibe, it sounds like we're trying to bring our whole selves to love rather than considering or thinking. But we don't know that we can't control our need for emotional satisfaction. For if we use reason, we must inhibit that satisfaction. That is why when we are bored with each other, we cannot out of grace continue to live together; Or even though we know that forgiving and accepting each other is the best way to solve problems, we still can't. We didn't overcome the need for emotional satisfaction, but we thought it was because our hearts were at full capacity.

Of course to live is to enjoy. But the more we enjoy it, the more likely we are to become addicted and weak. Meanwhile, life doesn't always provide us with favorable conditions. If we don't continue to enjoy ourselves at a familiar level, bad feelings arise and create torturous pain. Therefore, the wise must sacrifice unnecessary good feelings, accept the bad emotions necessary to reach higher goals—true and lasting happiness.

Although emotions are deeply related to genetics, it is the maturity environment that creates emotional capacity in each person. If we are aware that we are always driven by our emotions—what we should not do, and what we shouldn't do—then we must resolve to reorganize our lives. First, we should live with someone who is quite stable, principled, and always strictly follows a schedule. He also needs to be a little fastidious to be ready to remind us whenever we go beyond rules or commitments. Even if we find our insatiable habits too great, we can join the military or monastery for a long time to be trained in a strict regulatory environment. The beginning will inevitably be troublesome, because we have to give up old habits to establish new ones. But once we're established, we feel interested, free, and steady, because we can take the initiative in any situation. This means that we are no longer afraid of circumstances or other objects being manipulated and controlled. A person who shows little emotion is not easy to sympathize with people, but the more we interact and live with them, the more secure and confident we feel. Because they have a very high tolerance and sense of responsibility.

If we know that we are artistically inclined and often feel tired after letting our emotions flow endlessly, then we should regularly reach out to friends in other fields. Or you should try another profession that is completely opposite to your personality. We have to try to avoid the objects we like, and practice being close to those we don't like. In addition, we must try to ignore flattery or praise, and practice listening to frank or disparaging feedback. Remember, the shallowest layer of emotions we inadvertently harbor the most is what we feel in our senses plus our love-hate attitude.

Those are very effective solutions to help us balance our emotions. When emotions are in balance, our ability to observe all objects is more accurate. But only when we understand and are able to neutralize "stormy" emotions can we live peacefully and freely for a long time. However, let's first find a quiet space to reflect on our familiar feelings. Ideally, go to a meditation center.

We will first learn to focus our minds on an object (concentration). This is an important basic exercise, helping us develop a long-term ability to pay attention without letting other ideas easily get in. It takes three months or six months to build a solid habit of concentration. Because without this habit, we won't be able to explore and untangle the complex and sophisticated layers of psychology.

The main job of a yogi is also to observe all psychological phenomena with an attitude of neither love nor hate, neither prejudice nor judgment. We watch casually since the seed of affliction is agitated and manifests itself on the surface of consciousness in the form of energy. Then the whole process of that energy continues to be stimulated by external circumstances or other elements of the psychological mechanism. Until it urges us to speak or act, and even when it dissolves and what causes it to dissolve. The most important thing is not to eliminate disturbing emotions, but to understand their structure. If we don't understand disturbing emotions, we can only suppress them, never transform. It's also important to observe our attitude whenever we encounter disturbing emotions. Opposing attitudes will make disturbing emotions hidden or strengthened.

This skill can be honed wherever you are. Whenever we feel emotional energy surging, if possible, we should immediately stop what we are doing and prioritize returning to emotional care. Just like a mother while cooking or sewing, when she suddenly hears a baby crying, she immediately stops work to take care of the baby. As long as the mother picks up the baby and pats it a little, the baby will stop crying immediately. Slowly observe, the mother will understand what is causing the baby to cry, be it thirst for milk or a dirty diaper to promptly help. That observant mother is mindfulness. Mindfulness is the "etching" of all disturbing emotions, because in the powerful light of mindfulness all disturbing emotions are isolated and melted. That said, mindfulness is the heart of meditation. As long as we develop mindfulness firmly, disturbing emotions will self-destruct without us having to try to eradicate them.

Disturbing emotions are inherently phenomena, so emotions are also phenomena. They are born from the misfunctioning of psychological mechanisms, which are mainly caused by misperceptions of the ego. Don't forget, we can't use the will to suppress one perception to replace it with another. What should be done is to diligently maintain the habit of observing all developments in the mind in every situation so that we will see the unreal nature of those emotions. Because when the desires and oppositions are gone, the disturbing emotions or emotions will also dissipate. Our minds will become as clear and quiet as a lake without ripples.

If emotion is placed within a framework of constant monitoring of mindfulness, it becomes an important material needed to create color and flavor for life. Because man is a living reality, not an inanimate wood.

According to the emotional
trance Where to drift This
morning it was sunny
A flower greeted.
Depending on the circumstances:
Do not force according to your will, Keep the
mind, do not keep the scene, The scene
is also peaceful.

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